Comments on: How to Kill the Joy of Social Media: Real messages from real people http://www.giveabrick.com/how-to-kill-the-joy-of-social-media-real-messages-from-real-people/ Making the impossible, possible Fri, 30 Jul 2010 03:35:43 +0100 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Eleanor http://www.giveabrick.com/how-to-kill-the-joy-of-social-media-real-messages-from-real-people/comment-page-1/#comment-622 Eleanor Fri, 05 Feb 2010 13:24:48 +0000 http://www.giveabrick.com/?p=1411#comment-622 Hi Michelle, Thanks for taking the time to share. It's seems you and Roy have a lot in common. It's never really bothered me, I just tend to ignore the nonsense. However, I love the way you've been trying to engage in real, genuine conversation instead. How's that been working out? It reminds me of something I started doing with DMs on Twitter just yesterday. I think you and I will have to compare notes sometime as it sounds like it could make an interesting follow-up post. .-= Eleanor´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.giveabrick.com/how-to-survive-the-fog/">How to Survive the Fog</a> =-. Hi Michelle,
Thanks for taking the time to share. It’s seems you and Roy have a lot in common. It’s never really bothered me, I just tend to ignore the nonsense. However, I love the way you’ve been trying to engage in real, genuine conversation instead. How’s that been working out?

It reminds me of something I started doing with DMs on Twitter just yesterday. I think you and I will have to compare notes sometime as it sounds like it could make an interesting follow-up post.
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]]> By: Michelle Licudine http://www.giveabrick.com/how-to-kill-the-joy-of-social-media-real-messages-from-real-people/comment-page-1/#comment-617 Michelle Licudine Fri, 05 Feb 2010 02:55:16 +0000 http://www.giveabrick.com/?p=1411#comment-617 I recently joined a social media site and when I first saw the give a calf a home message I thought it was a joke. Then I realized it was an invite to a game. Next, people sent me flowers and hearts. Rather than a perfect bunch of social lavender, I would have enjoyed a quick hello or a meaningful exchange. I wanted to rant about this also in a blog and call it "Please don't send me flowers." I haven't because I realized that the sender thought they were showing they cared. Instead, I have started sending a personal message back to encourage real conversation. Wow..was that a hot button subject for me or what! Thanks for the post, Michelle .-= Michelle Licudine´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.flightsofancy.biz/?p=309">For the love of screen printing</a> =-. I recently joined a social media site and when I first saw the give a calf a home message I thought it was a joke. Then I realized it was an invite to a game.

Next, people sent me flowers and hearts. Rather than a perfect bunch of social lavender, I would have enjoyed a quick hello or a meaningful exchange.

I wanted to rant about this also in a blog and call it “Please don’t send me flowers.”

I haven’t because I realized that the sender thought they were showing they cared. Instead, I have started sending a personal message back to encourage real conversation.

Wow..was that a hot button subject for me or what!

Thanks for the post,
Michelle
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]]> By: Ben http://www.giveabrick.com/how-to-kill-the-joy-of-social-media-real-messages-from-real-people/comment-page-1/#comment-612 Ben Thu, 04 Feb 2010 20:42:12 +0000 http://www.giveabrick.com/?p=1411#comment-612 Yeah - in my mind that's what it boils down to. People might think I'm over-simplifying it but when you get down to the root of things, the need for love or connection and the fear of not having is is usually the driving force. .-= Ben´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/6Aliens/~3/C_UHIHrCY58/">Music: The Soundtrack to life</a> =-. Yeah – in my mind that’s what it boils down to. People might think I’m over-simplifying it but when you get down to the root of things, the need for love or connection and the fear of not having is is usually the driving force.
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]]> By: Eleanor http://www.giveabrick.com/how-to-kill-the-joy-of-social-media-real-messages-from-real-people/comment-page-1/#comment-608 Eleanor Thu, 04 Feb 2010 19:34:01 +0000 http://www.giveabrick.com/?p=1411#comment-608 That's very profound Ben. I hadn't though of it like that. So it all comes down to a need to feel wanted and loved? It frightens me sometimes to think just how important love is to us humans. Hmmmmm, I need some more time to think about that one. Thank you. .-= Eleanor´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.giveabrick.com/1-minute-motivator-dream-big/">1 Minute Motivator: Dream Big</a> =-. That’s very profound Ben. I hadn’t though of it like that. So it all comes down to a need to feel wanted and loved? It frightens me sometimes to think just how important love is to us humans. Hmmmmm, I need some more time to think about that one. Thank you.
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]]> By: Ben http://www.giveabrick.com/how-to-kill-the-joy-of-social-media-real-messages-from-real-people/comment-page-1/#comment-607 Ben Thu, 04 Feb 2010 19:15:56 +0000 http://www.giveabrick.com/?p=1411#comment-607 I think we do this Eleanor because it does 1 of 2 things. 1) We know it annoys people but we do it anyway because we get something out of it. This makes us feel significant in others eyes because when they reciprocate we know that in a small way maybe that they care. 2) Because it's easier than having the "Hi, how are you?" conversation. To do that opens us to rejection and people potential showing that they don't care about us. That's a scary feeling isn't it? Most of the time to fear of rejection in unjustified but that doesn't stop our conscious or even sub-conscious from fear it anyway. .-= Ben´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/6Aliens/~3/C_UHIHrCY58/">Music: The Soundtrack to life</a> =-. I think we do this Eleanor because it does 1 of 2 things.

1) We know it annoys people but we do it anyway because we get something out of it. This makes us feel significant in others eyes because when they reciprocate we know that in a small way maybe that they care.

2) Because it’s easier than having the “Hi, how are you?” conversation. To do that opens us to rejection and people potential showing that they don’t care about us. That’s a scary feeling isn’t it? Most of the time to fear of rejection in unjustified but that doesn’t stop our conscious or even sub-conscious from fear it anyway.
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