Comments on: How to Live in Peace Without Being a Doormat

By: 1 Minute Motivator: How to avoid an argument | Give A Brick

1 Minute Motivator: How to avoid an argument | Give A Brick — Thu, 01 Apr 2010 04:01:50 +0000

[...] talked previously about the value of living in peace without being a doormat, it would seem clear that we’re not keen on confrontation. However, confronting someone over [...]

By: Friday’s Links — A Meaningful Existence

Friday’s Links — A Meaningful Existence — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 15:10:43 +0000

[...] up is Eleanor at Give a Brick who wrote How to Live in Peace Without Being a Doormat. The quote about “The Golden Rule is of no use to you whatever unless you realize it is your [...]

By: Eleanor

Eleanor — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 18:40:27 +0000

Thanks for stopping by Karen. I loved that quote too. Wish I’d written it But very clever, makes you really think. Challenging too though
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By: Karen

Karen — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 17:41:17 +0000

Hi Eleanor.

Love this – “Life isn’t meant to be a battle ground.” It’s so true!

Great article and it really gave me something to think about, especially this:
“The Golden Rule is of no use to you whatever unless you realize it is your move”

Wow, i never thought about it that way. Maybe it is my turn…

Karen

By: Eleanor

Eleanor — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 14:08:11 +0000

Hi Ralph
You’re so very right, no is a word that people seem to find hard to hear but lots of us are equally bad at saying it. This ties in with picking your battles because if you’re always saying no, life can get very hostile but there does need to be that balance.

Thanks for your comments Ralph. Much appreciated
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By: Ralph

Ralph — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 01:22:28 +0000

Excellent points here Eleanor and others. I also think that you have to be able to say no sometimes instead of stringing people along and hoping that they will give up. Learning how to say no in nice ways is extremely important.
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By: Eleanor

Eleanor — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 00:21:00 +0000

Hi Eric,
Thanks for dropping by and for the re-tweet. Keep on going with the battling. IMHO it does get easier with age. I’m a lot less confrontational now than I was even 5 years ago.

By: Eric

Eric — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 23:49:50 +0000

Eleanor,

I feel that communication is everything when it comes to anything. Saying sorry is huge and a great way to admit your mistakes and show you’re human and that you care. I’ve had trouble with the battle picking myself for a long time. I’m just learning how to go about doing this a bit better.

Great article!
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By: Eleanor

Eleanor — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 22:07:45 +0000

Thanks for your support and encouragement guys. Coming from the both of you, that means a lot

My children taught me that lesson fairly early on. It doesn’t suit all people but by being flexible, we have more fun and they know I mean business on the big stuff. Going back to what you posted earlier Ben, makes it easier to play good cop this way

Thanks too for the re-tweets

By: Ben

Ben — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 21:18:56 +0000

Completely agree with Matthew. Great advice Eleanor!

I like how you say picking your battles. We go through life becoming more and more stressed with everything we encounter. What a waste of energy.

Much better to use your energy to love and give.